“I feel so alone.” “I feel like no one knows me anymore. “ I don’t have anyone to do things with.” “I don’t know who I am anymore.” Do any of these things sound familiar? These are things commonly expressed by grieving people. They share in common a core characteristic: people are inherently social creatures. We form meaning in our relationships, and as those relationships change or end, we make meaning out of these changes… in the context of relationships!
When we experience the death of a loved one, we don’t simply experience the loss of a person… we experience the loss of a relationship with that person AND OURSELVES. Death impacts how we see the world around us, and the world within us. Midland offers grief groups to any grieving person in the community, whether they have lost a loved one in services or not, but COVID has presented a challenge to how the community works. We are told to “social distance”, but for the grieving, that simply adds isolation upon isolation. It’s a challenge for hospices around the nation, as they attempt to build a community for those who have lost core social supports to death. So how does this look for Midland? As with so many services around the nation, face to face groups is temporarily suspended. We don’t know when we will be able to resume, but we are well aware that the needs haven’t gone away.
In recent weeks, we have taken on the technology of programs such as Zoom and Go To Meeting to provide group services similar to those provided face to face. We are using these same kinds of formats to provide counseling services until we can resume face to face services at the counseling center. As we identify people who express interest in the group or individual services, we are opening up more groups to accommodate the needs. Currently, we have 3 groups meeting, with room to add more. We anticipate that least some of these groups will continue to meet even after resuming face to face meetings, to accommodate people who for whatever reason cannot attend a face to face group. These groups are already showing a positive impact.
If you or someone you love could benefit from Midland’s group or counseling services, we are still here to provide those supports. Call Midland at 785- 224-2044 and ask to speak to someone in the Bereavement Department. You don’t have to face grief alone.