When A Mother Loses A Child
Mother’s Day is near, but not every mother will be celebrating in the traditional means. Sometimes life rocks us to the core with an unexpected and/or unexplained circumstance. The loss of a child at any age is one of those situations. The death of a child takes everyone by surprise whether the death is due to illness, maternal death, an accident, suicide or murder. It disturbs the natural cycle of life for a parent to have to lay a child to eternal rest. The mother is left bereaved or “torn apart” not only in the loss of her child, but in all of the future dreams and occasions that were expected to come.
The experience of a child’s death is not common, which makes addressing it that much more concerning to family and friends of the bereaved parents as they don’t want to cause additional pain or upset the grieving parents. However, it is important to consider that the bereaved wants their child to be remembered and continued to be treasured, because that child was an important part of this person’s life.
As Mother’s Day approaches, a grieving mother often wonders, “am I still considered a mother if my child died?” The answer is yes, in her heart she knows she will always be a mother to her child who has died. However, society doesn’t always acknowledge a relationship continues even after the child’s death.
A grieving mother will most likely appreciate a kind word or gesture regarding their loved one as the mother-child relationship is a deeply sacred one. So don’t shy away from recognizing the life and death of a child, in the form of kind words, a card, or a thoughtful gesture, as this is now the only way to honor that child’s life and memory. Everyone grieves in their own way and offering a sincere message of encouragement, hope and love is often a very welcome gift. On this Mother’s Day remember to provide support to women who have lost a child, as it can be a difficult day for grieving mothers.